Out of Office: Happy Holidaze
12/23/16 - We're snacking in our most luxurious loungewear, bingeing TV and reading away from our closets and microphones. Happy holidays, besties. We'll be back after the holiday break.
Transcript below.
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CREDITS
Producer: Gina Delvac
Hosts: Aminatou Sow & Ann Friedman
Theme song: Call Your Girlfriend by Robyn
Visual Creative Director: Kenesha Sneed
Merch Director: Caroline Knowles
Ad sales: Midroll
Erato cover of Robyn - Call Your Girlfriend
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TRANSCRIPT: OUT OF OFFICE: HAPPY HOLIDAZE
Ann: Welcome to Call Your Girlfriend.
Aminatou: A podcast for long-distance besties everywhere.
Ann: I'm Ann Friedman.
Aminatou: And I'm Aminatou Sow.
Ann: Hey y'all, hope you're having a very relaxing holiday. We are not here this week because we are doing probably exactly what you're doing which is sitting around in our most luxurious loungewear and watching TV and reading books and not really working. So you'll catch us back here after the holiday and until then hope you are taking an excellent break. Talk to you soon, besties.
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